Tuesday, September 30, 2008
This is one habit that I am trying to control but of late I am losing the battle of the bulge, thanks to the snack food that is easily available and affordable. After a heavy meal, the first thing that I would like to reach out for is a packet of fried peanuts and any other tidbits. But why do I have to do it? It really beats me and I have to have a stronger will power to say no to my cravings. I know the guilt that I would feel after finishing a whole packet of fried peanuts or cheezels, but then it would be too late and just to repeat the same process the following day. Is this some sort of addiction?
I am going to list down a few rules and hopefully stick to it otherwise it would be to late to get rid of the access fat that accumulates on the body (which has already started by now).
1. Don't buy any snack food from the supermarket (Don't let the devil tempt you).
2. Eat a hearty meal and just be full and satisfied.
3. If I am going to snack then I should skip my meals as a punishment (Bad idea!).
4. Keep my mind occupied with other stuff (Hope it is not food).
Looks like I am getting nowhere with this list. Do you have any good ideas that you had tried out and if it did work for you, would you like to share it with me.
Monday, September 29, 2008
Looks like it's a long weekend in Malaysia(holidays from yesterday until monday) but here in Hyderabad, Hari Raya Puasa or Eid falls tomorrow (Sunday). So there isn't any holiday as it falls on a Sunday(which is a holiday... coincidentally), not that I am a muslim but I cheerish my childhood memories as we use to get the goodies in the morning from our Malay neighbours and I loved the ketupat with the peanut sauce or the chicken rendang and also the pulut.
Now that these days are over, I was feeling rather nostalgic about it today. What can I expect from Hyderabad, it's a place where I am posted due to my work. What did I do today? I had a nap in the afternoon and then tried tinkering with Technorati, trying to figure out how it works and then here I am at this blog, just writing what I felt during my childhood days.
I called up the family and wished them "Selamat Hari Raya" and was kiddingly asking my wife whether she had received any ketupat....she told me....in Tamil....only "ketu" which means punch....and so I guess it is a quiet day for my family too...I stay in a place where we don't really intereact with our neighbours and both my immediate neighbours are chinese, one is a Christian(Christmas), the other Chinese New Year and if I am not mistaken I guess I saw a Malay neighbour a few houses away..... Guess I have moved up in life...and staying in a posh neighbourhood, one can't expect much. This is what we pay for development and moving up in the social ladder....
One of my blogging friend asked me yesterday, whether there was any "open house" invitation in Hyderabad(like we do for all the festivals in Malaysia).....I told her that there is no such concept here in Hyderabad for the festivals....all the doors are firmly locked and you have to use the back door, if you want to get in I guess...and help yourself to the goodies....and perhaps spend the night in jail.....with more free goodies.....
Before I forget, I would like to wish all my muslim friends...."Selamat Hari Raya Puasa"
FEUDALISM: You have two cows. Your lord takes some of the milk.
PURE SOCIALISM: You have two cows. The government takes them and puts them in a barn with everyone else's cows. You have to take care of all of the cows. The government gives you as much milk as you need.
BUREAUCRATIC SOCIALISM: You have two cows. The government takes them and put them in a barn with everyone else's cows. They are cared for by ex-chicken farmers. You have to take care of the chickens the government took from the chicken farmers. The government gives you as much milk and eggs as the regulations say you need.
FASCISM: You have two cows. The government takes both, hires you to take care of them and sells you the milk.
PURE COMMUNISM: You have two cows. Your neighbors help you take care of them, and you all share the milk.
RUSSIAN COMMUNISM: You have two cows. You have to take care of them, but the government takes all the milk.
CAMBODIAN COMMUNISM: You have two cows. The government takes both of them and shoots you.
DICTATORSHIP: You have two cows. The government takes both and drafts you.
PURE DEMOCRACY: You have two cows. Your neighbors decide who gets the milk.
REPRESENTATIVE DEMOCRACY: You have two cows. Your neighbors pick someone to tell you who gets the milk.
BUREAUCRACY: You have two cows. At first the government regulates what you can feed them and when you can milk them. Then it pays you not to milk them. Then it takes both, shoots one, milks the other and pours the milk down the drain. Then it requires you to fill out forms accounting for the missing cows.
PURE ANARCHY: You have two cows. Either you sell the milk at a fair price or your neighbors try to take the cows and kill you.
LIBERTARIAN/ANARCHO-CAPITALISM: You have two cows. You sell one and buy a bull.
SURREALISM: You have two giraffes. The government requires you to take harmonica lessons.
(Original source unknown . . . this version expanded and Illuminated by SJ.)
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Saturday, September 27, 2008
How can you build the life you want? The answer to that question is different for each of us. But it’s critical that you answer it, because in the answer you will find purpose and meaning. Many of us look for happiness in things, but happiness doesn’t come from things, it comes from how we relate to ourselves and our world.
- Be True to Yourself - This doesn’t mean a life without compromise. It means that you don’t lie to yourself. It means that you find out what is true in your heart, and you seek people, places, and experiences which support that core truth. It means you don’t settle for mediocrity. It means you keep striving for excellence even in the face of failure, because you know you are not mediocre. You know that you are absolutely unique and are capable of contributing something great. Being true to yourself means you don’t hide behind a mask. It means you’re a WYSIWYG person.
- Have a Vision for Your Future - Take action now, with a picture of your future in mind. Have a vision that improves your life and the lives of others. Our CEO has a vision of attaching our ergonomic products to every display and laptop in the world. He never stops talking about it, because he knows if we realized even a portion of his vision, that our world would be a better place. Some people have a vision of living off the land like Thoreau (HT to Paul Buchheit). You already know how to build a vision. You do it on a small scale everyday when you jump in your car and drive to a destination. You have to start with a destination in mind or you’ll end up at some random place. So what is your life vision?
- Avoid Debt - Debt is slavery. If you can’t afford it now, save for it. If you do decide to take on debt make sure it’s critical to your life vision. What is important enough to take on debt?
- A home? Maybe
- An education? Maybe
- A business? Maybe
- A car? Maybe
- A pair of shoes? No
- A latte? No
- A night out drinking? No
- Christmas gifts? No
- Trendy new eyeglasses? No
- An iPhone? No
Make sure you’re not paying compound interest on stuff that will end up in a landfill or get flushed down the toilet. Make it a rule, to avoid debt.
- Save - The financial experts all say, Pay Yourself First. Pay yourself at least 10% of your gross income. It’s easy if you have 10% automatically deducted from your paycheck and deposited in an investment portfolio. You’ll never miss it.
- Continue Your Education - Invest in your mind. Few people do.
- 58% of the US adult population never reads another book after high school
- 42% of college graduates never read another book
- 80% of US families did not buy or read a book last year
- 70% of US adults have not been in a bookstore in the last five years (source Jeff Jarvis)
Traditional education isn’t an end, but a beginning. Traditional educators endeavor to create within your mind, a set of tools with which you will build a lifetime of education. Even if you never acquired a traditional education, you can still enjoy a lifetime of learning and growth. Keep an open mind, look for educational opportunity everywhere and become a wealthier, smarter, more creative person.
- Take Responsibility for Change - If you aren’t getting the results you want from life, you’re probably thinking and doing things that are counter-productive. Only you can identify what those things are and only you can take responsibility for changing them. To discover what changes you need to make, find someone who is getting the results you want, then compare your habits to theirs. Find out how they think, how they speak, how they act, what they do, and what they value. Don’t be a phony, be yourself, but learn from other people. You can take huge shortcuts in life if you are willing learn from other people.
- Learn from Mistakes - Not just your mistakes, but everyone’s mistakes. View history as an opportunity to learn. Some of us are embarrassed of our past and would rather just forget about it, but that can easily turn into denial. Denial is imaginative stubbornness which causes us to repeat the same foolish actions. We fear what we don’t understand, so if we don’t understand our failures we create unnecessary anxiety in our lives. To act courageously in spite of fear we must be honest with ourselves about our past.
- Build Quality Relationships/Discard Destructive Ones - The quality of your life is directly related to the quality of the people you choose to have relationships with. Make sure your relationships are two way relationships. If they are all take and little give they are will suck the happiness out of your life.
Love: Look for a partner who is on a similar journey as yours, who has similar goals and values, and build on your relationship by giving your love and encouragement. Be ready to compromise, because great relationships are built on shared visions not selfish ambition. Share the difficulties and the rewards. Listen closely. Be patient.
Friendship: Look for people with similar values, who give as much as they take, with which you can share interests and hobbies. Good friends don’t try to change each other, they accept each other for who they are. Laugh, listen, and offer help.
Business: Expect high ethical standards from your business associates. Don’t waste time with people who use questionable business models and practices, they can only muddy your name. All ethical business relationships are built upon providing mutual benefit. If you are questioning a relationship, trust your instincts and examine the relationship to see if it is lopsided. If someone is questioning you, listen and be honest with yourself. Is there a mutual benefit? Are you being fair? Can you see another perspective?
- Do the Right Thing Even When it is Unpopular - Have you ever gone along with the crowd and said or did something you knew hurt someone else? Most of us have. I have, and I’m not proud of it. Every time you fail to stand up for what you know is right, it leaves a little hole in your soul. It’s like cutting flesh away, it will heal but it leaves a scar. You can’t change other people, but you can call them on their bullshit or walk away when they are acting like Neanderthals.
- Honor Your Commitments - Do not make commitments lightly. Before you commit to anything, think it through with your heart and your mind, and if you have doubts, don’t commit. But if you do commit, follow through. Our biggest commitments are to our spouses and our children. If you fail to honor those basic commitments, the damage can last generations (This is not to say that you should stay in an abusive relationship. If you are in one, get out. The abuser has already broken his commitment). Our business commitments can be nearly as important. If you fail to pay your bills and honor your contracts, you will see opportunity evaporate. Others will lose trust in you, which will destroy your relationships.
- Be Charitable - Now that you’re saving 10%, take another 10% and give it to a worthy cause. I am sure some of you are thinking, “whatever, he’s talking about rich people, not me, I don’t have enough money to give any away.” No, I’m talking about you. If you only make $1000 per month then you only have to give away a 100 bucks. If you can’t give away $100 now, it will be even harder to give $1000 later. Why? Because it will add to your overall well being. You’ll feel better about yourself and your world and it will come back to you ten fold. Being miserly will not improve your life, generosity will.
The pub is a hip and happening place, where all the yuppies gather at this watering hole. I was there with my friend and they were with a movie producer from Tollywood and I was enjoying their company and I know some of the starlets were eyeing the producer, hoping to land maybe in his next production and I was like a wall paper there when the starlets approach the producer.
Anyway, it ended well at about mid-night as that was the closing time for most of the pubs in Hyderabad. I was still sober when I left the pub, and I came down to the ground floor where my car was parked. There was a fountain, not lighted up and flushed as the same level with the ground floor. And I just walked into it. I went crushing into the pool of water, not knowing what had happened. I know I was wet and I had my Nokia phone in a phone case at my hip, I thought to myself, there goes my expensive phone, drowning itself. To my surprise, the phone was still lighting up and I switched it off to prevent any short circuit.
Now the most embarrassing part was getting out of the pool of water, all soaking wet and everyone starring at me. Maybe in away I was lucky as I guess most of them must have been tipsy after the drinks or their senses would have been dead after all the drinks.
I composed myself, as though nothing had happened and got into my car as my driver was waiting for me, wondering what the hell happened to me. And to make matters worse, my friend invited me to his house along with the producer for a night cap. Well I went to his place and got a change of clothes from him.
But the best part of this incident was that I just went about as though nothing had happened, even though I was feeling really embarrassed and felt like a fool.
So now, it is your turn to share with me your most embarrassing moment.
Friday, September 26, 2008
It's like why can't I be satisfied with what I have but being human I guess we are never satisfied with what we have. We always want that little extra something and our quest to get that little extra something is what keeps us going and keeps us on our toes.
I am sure you are of the same opinion like me, always searching and looking out for something better. But after doing my due diligence, I guess I can throw in my towel. But something at the back of my mind is telling me that I have not looked hard enough. Maybe I can seek the help of my fellow bloggers in letting me know, which is their favourite blog provider and maybe their views and opinion, that is if I am not being such a pain in the ass.
Thursday, September 25, 2008
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
I guess the past is just the stepping stone for the future and the future again is something that has not occurred and hence it is a waste of time predicting what is not tangible unless we are GOD or some divine being. But as I had mentioned, being humans, sometimes we like to day dream and feel good about something which we don't possess.
I believe, life is nothing but a summation of moments, like a movie and we have the scissors to snip away any footage that we don't approve by our own censor department in our mind.
So where does all this leave me, the present and what do I have in store at this present moment? Just cherishing my thought of blogging on something which has no consequence to what is going to influence my thoughts of being in the past or in the future but brings me back to this present moment. And the feeling,that I had the opportunity to do this is very satisfying to me as I know that I might have stirred something in you.
So cherish this moment...it's all that you have.
Kung Fu Panda is a great movie with a lot to recommend it, to adults too. Throughout the movie are some great, Eastern-inspired quotes that give the adult viewer a lot to think about. Here I cover a few of my favorites...
Today is a gift. That's why we call it the present."
A great quote (and catchy too!) Tomorrow is over and finished with. Whatever happened, happened. Whatever didn't happen, didn't happen. Spending time and energy in the present fretting over things that are now history is a waste of your resources.
Tomorrow is a mystery. We don't know what tomorrow will bring. Your life could change dramatically in the next 24 hours...or perhaps tomorrow will be much the same as today. Whatever plans you may make, the future is out of your direct control.
But today? Today is a gift. It is yours to have here and now. Right now you have control over your thoughts and your feelings. It may not always seem that way, but it's true. You do. That was the great 'secret' discovered by Viktor Frankl in the hell of Auschwitz. You, and only you, have the power to assign meaning to your present circumstances and condition. And therein lies the chance for change and an opportunity for growth. Decide today what meaning you want to attach to events in your life. Do not allow yourself to be subjugated to alien meanings imposed on your from those around you. This is your present for yourself.
Master Wugui (Oogway) is the fountain of wisdom in Kung Fu Panda and this is a great quote from him that hints at the underlying oneness of existence. There are no accidents... only events. What we see before us is the mind-bogglingly complex, but nevertheless real, interactions between particles that are invisible to all but the most powerful microscopes. These particles may cause apparent accidents to happen, but that is an illusion, as Master Wugui points out. It is us, our ego-driven selves, branding an event an accident that obscures the greater truth of unity from our perception. The Universe knows what it is doing. It is in control; perfect and beautiful in its harmony.
This is my favorite quote of the movie. There are no secret ingredients. You don't need any 'secrets'. The 'secret', if that is what it is, is to harmonize with your true nature and maintain that harmony throughout your life. You are enough; you have everything that you need to live your life. You just need to be very sure that it is indeed your life that you are living and not someone else's. Another one of my favorite quotes comes from Jung:
own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens."
Where are you looking for your truth: inside or outside? The people around you are living their lives and following their truth. "My truth is not your truth", as Bruce Lee said. Don't confuse the truth of other people with your own truth. Exert yourself in finding your own path and follow it with your heart. There are no secret ingredients. Everything you need to be you - to 'make' you - is inside you already.
A lot of the first half of the movie is about the characters - including Po, the Kung Fu Panda himself, accepting that the overweight bear is indeed the Dragon Warrior. It is his destiny but only Master Wugui can see that.
You are who you are. Discover who you are and love yourself for who you are. Respect yourself for who you are. Banish influences that will ask you to do anything other than fulfill your own unique destiny. Taking your life off on a tangent may bring achievement, success, accomplishment and so on but how do you feel five minutes later? If reaching those goals has been contrary to your nature you will know it straight away. Despite the successes you will be left with an empty, hollow feeling, wondering why everyone was making such a fuss about this latest thing you have done. Now, you can see right through it and see it for what it is: an illusion. Sooner or later, you will be forced to take a long, hard look at yourself once again and consider the direction your life is heading in. Take a moment now and consider if your heart is telling you that your current path is your destiny. If not, you will save yourself a lot of time and effort to recalibrate your guidance system and head back in the direction you know deep inside you should be going in.
Another great one from Master Wugui. This refers to both internal and external control. Externally, Master Wugui is talking about overcoming the idea that you can control things outside yourself. The seed from a peach will grow into a peach tree. It is its nature. It can't fight it and it doesn't try. You may not want a peach tree; you may prefer apples. But you won't get an apple tree from a peach seed. An attempt to control the nature of peach seed is delusion.
Internally, the quote again reminds us that we can't ultimately control our true nature. Trying to do so is a temporary illusion, but one that can potentially cause tremendous damage to yourself if you are not careful. Do not reign in your true nature. Find it and harmonize with it. It is your friend, not your enemy.
"Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting." --Bernard Meltzer
"When freedom prevails, the ingenuity and inventiveness of people creates incredible wealth. This is the source of the natural improvement of the human condition." --Brian S. Wesbury
Friday, September 19, 2008
I had posted this on my opera blog yesterday after lunch and I felt this morning that I should post it here too and share my feelings with you.
Well I had just finished my lunch of "fish ball noodle soup" and in between all my meetings and other distractions, I told myself that I have to find time to say a few words. Voilà I am here but I am stuck for words, a tricky situation huh!!!
Lately ever since I return from Hyderabad, life seems to be one hell of a roller coaster ride, it's like I have stepped into a time machine which gobbles up every minute or hour from me. I am like a zombie, sitting in meetings after meetings and coming out of it completely dazed and confused. Not only I have to attend meetings but my phone keeps ringing persistently on matters which I had absolutely no control.
So what do I do? I guess I should be an ostrich and bury my head in the sand, hoping all this would stop. But can I do that? I guess not! Got to face it and bite the bullet and get shot in the process.
Sometimes I wonder, why did God invent managers? We are paid to manage all things that are possible in this realm and others which we had absolutely no control off but inherited by virtue of being a manager and the fact that we are getting paid for it. In a way I have to clear up the "shit" created by others due to their mismanagement.
Does this mean that I have to bear the brunt created by others or do I have a choice to ignore all of this by looking for greener pastures.
Maybe I should mull over this and really look into what life is offering me at this precise moment.
Which I guess at this moment is a big fat zero....
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Now what do I do? Looks like I am taking one problem at a time as I know that there is only so much that I can do. I know the future with my company is not so rosy with all the winding up order and the purchasers chasing us to complete the work and payments to sub-contractors which were not paid from time immemorial.
I still get my 8 hours of sleep and I know that each day that I face is a new day for me but with the same old problems. So that's why I have decided to let life take it's own course.
Thursday, September 11, 2008
“YOU CAN accomplish anything in life, provided that you do not mind who gets the credit,” observed Harry Truman. Splendid thought. Leave your ego at the front door when you go to work today and just do superb work. Good things will happen. For you.
It’s so human to crave applause and recognition and acclaim. We want to be appreciated by our peers and revered by the tribe. But leadership is about a lot more than trying to look good in the eyes of others. It’s about standing for a cause (as Pablo Picasso added, “It’s your work in life that is the ultimate seduction”). It’s about being BIW (Best in the World) at what you do. It’s about leaving people better than you found them. And it’s about not worrying who gets the credit for a job well done.
People who are outstanding always get found out. The cliché is true: The cream always rises to the top. The best always come to light. And the Great Ones among us can never be held back.
— Excerpted from The Greatness Guide 2 by ROBIN SHARMA. Published by Jaico Publishing House, email@example.com
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
My son left for Moscow via Bangkok by Thai Airways on 08.09.08 to do his medical studies at Moscow Medical University. We would only be able to see him in the first week of July 2009.
I guess we as parents have to accept the fact that our little boy is not little anymore.
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Friday, September 5, 2008
Well I had my seafood dinner at Teluk Gong with our family friends as they visited us. We ordered quite a lot of stuff but as I was busy eating, I couldn't snap all the items. This restaurant is about 15 minutes drive from where I live and it is on the way to Klang. The ambience of this place reminds you of a fishing village with the chalet kind of arrangement for the tables and thatched roofs.